There comes a time in life when you realize that no matter how hard you fight, you just simply can’t win.
I don’t think of this as giving up. I feel that once you have fought the fight, you’ve given it everything you have and your still standing in the same spot you were when you started, it is time to consider walking away.
It isn’t what you want to do. You have worked so hard for so long to make a difference, but that person is just unmovable. They won’t budge. You start to feel like you are battling yourself.
You start to question why you are fighting so hard for someone that doesn’t want you . You question whether this is something you are doing for them, or if it is about you not being willing to lose.
Fighting for someone’s love and attention only works when that person has the potential of loving you back. If they don’t, then what are you really fighting for? No matter how you feel, you can’t make someone love you. You can’t make them want you again.
You have to learn to walk away and admit defeat. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and say it’s ok. I did my best, and I lost. Take those lessons learned and turn away and let them watch you leave with your head high and your back straight.
Be proud of the fight you gave. You didn’t lose because you didn’t try hard enough, you lost because they didn’t bother to try at all. Life keeps going, and we get to choose the way we live it. Stop wasting time fighting for someone that doesn’t want to give you what you need.
There is so much more life out there. Happiness, friendships, and open doors. Go seek them out, feeling confident you gave it your best. Because in the end, you didn’t lose, they did.
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