My Latest Adventure in Social Anxiety

One of the new things that I wanted to add this week was more time outside of my safe place— my house. I decided that the right mix of days of when I leave the confines of my house would have to vary based on times. I needed to test different levels of anxiety at different times of the day.

On Tuesday I had a meeting with the local author that I am working with on a major freelance project. This meeting would serve several purposes for my social anxiety. The first was that it was morning and I wanted to test how much I could take when my anxiety isn‘t so high. This would be a good test. Also, I wanted to gauge my anxiety levels so that I compare then to how anxiety is at my worst (4pm – 7pm.)

The meeting lasted about two and half hours. For the most part, with a 2mg dose of Ativan, I was able to function normally. After the meeting, I ran a couple of errands before heading home. My focus was on what I was doing, and specifically if I experienced any increased anxiety in my car in the morning. I did experience some anxiety, but it didn’t lead to a panic attack in my car when I first got in.

What interests me here is that in the first five minutes of driving are very tough inside my car with my driving anxiety. It was that way Tuesday morning but it wasn’t so extreme like when my ”worst panic attack ever” happened. It was manageable. This was interesting, and I was out of my house Tuesday for a total of three hours. This was a good step in the right direction.

Right now it is all about working towards finding my triggers. My anxiety hits its peak around 4 pm like clockwork. Yesterday I wanted to test how I did in the car by taking a couple of short trips. The first was about a five-minute drive down the street to the gas station.

I knew it would be hard because my social anxiety had already peaked when I left my house at 4:30 pm. As I was driving I could feel myself on the edges of a panic attack. The first sign was a shortness of breath. Then a little numbness in the tips of my hands. I didn’t lose control. I did some mindfulness breathing while I was driving and it helped.

I have able to exit my car and take a breath. It felt as if the walls were closing in on me but I managed. In the back of my mind, I thought about my past experiences and worried that this trip could end in a panic attack. I put gas in my car a proceeded down the road to my second stop.

I had to pick up something on my local Best Buy and by the time I got there I could feel some control again. My trip was short in the store and if I started to work on my thoughts. I thought about how I am taking control in the moment. I thought, how if I could stay focused I could start to fix my panic attacks and social anxiety issues.

I made it home and my level of anxiety was okay. I wasn’t in a full-blown panic attack, maybe a mild one. It was a test and not an easy one. My next step is going to be going out for tea at my local coffee shop (non-caffeinated) and try to push myself to stay during my worst anxiety time of 4-7 pm. The length of time is important. I can do things like reading a book or listening to music while I am there.

What I am working on is exposure therapy. I have to get used to leaving my house when my anxiety hits it peaks. I need to learn to fight it and get to a point where I control my social anxiety. I have so many plans for the summer, and it’s now or never when it comes to working on my panic attacks and social anxiety.

The last thing is that I am looking at getting a camera so that I can go out and take pictures. On the days where I am home I can leave for a while since I live in the country and takes pictures around my house. I can get out without leaving too far from where I am safe. It serves as a hobby outside my writing, school work, blog, and freelance work.

I wanted to ask my fellow photographer bloggers what is a good camera and a good price range. I have some experience in photography so I was looking at Costco because they have great deals. I want a good camera in the range of $500.00 and no more than $800.00

Always Keep Fighting.

J.E. Skye

Upgrading The Bipolar Writer Blog to Business

I am looking to expand The Bipolar Writer blog to new territories that include having the blog sell books for other artists (if I can make everything work). I am also looking to sell my own book here on my blog. I hate asking for donations but I have to do what I can.


Photo credit: unsplash-logoElijah Hiett

15 Replies to “My Latest Adventure in Social Anxiety”

  1. First of all, congratulations on managing those short trips, hopefully, your 4-7 times will get better. Once you can tell yourself, the panic attacks will pass and they wont kill you, it should get easier, at least for me it did, but your condition is much different than mine. As for a camera, I think it will depend on howf ar advanced you are in photography. I have a canon rebel 2, 5, and six. I dont Like the rebel 5 because you have to take the camera off the tripod to grt the sd card out. I’m not that advanced in manual photography wxcept for green screen. I really like the rebel six. It will probably range between 500 and 800 and just check tosee whatever camera you get, includes a lense or not. They are pricey.

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      1. Canonrebels are entry level for the dslr cameras. If you are pro already, you might want to consider higher end. They usually cost more than 800 and not sure if they come with lenses.

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      2. I will take that into consideration. I have some history with photography but my last camera was many years ago and I sold it. I have few cheaper cameras, and I have phone with a great camera (iPhone X) so its no rush. I want to start using my own photos in my posts. Thank you so much for your suggestions.

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  2. Thank you for sharing tthis. Keep up the good work that you are doing. You will get there in the end.

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  3. I can relate on the struggle/curiosity of finding triggers. It’s hard because you have to put yourself at risk of getting majorly triggered, but at the same time there’s this curiosity inside of you as you begin to get little clues about issues you once thought were always going to be a mystery.

    Camera suggestion though, I have a Pentax camera I inherited from my great uncle. I can’t remember the number of the model off the top of my head, but it’s a very nice camera with a at least semi professional lense (not top of the notch thousands of dollars lenses but it’s a far step up from a common semi expensive camera with no detatchable lense) and I haven’t had any issues with it so far, so looking into that brand of camera wouldn’t be too shabby a search at least 😊

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