Seeking Help in a Non-Crisis Situation

Update: I wanted to repost this because I feel it is still important  to talk about seeking help. In the road to recovery seeking help is just as important to self-care.

It is always important to seek help in a crisis situation. If you are feeling suicidal or having suicidal ideations, then it is imperative to seek help. That means going to the emergency room and talking to your psychiatrist or therapist. Suicide is a serious thing, and if you have followed The Bipolar Writer you know I am against suicide. If my experience has taught me anything, it is that suicide is not the answer.

With that said. I want to talk about what to do in a non-crisis situation.

What You Should You Do?

If you have concluded that there is no life or death situation for you or someone you love, but they need help. Then you should seek help. But what does that mean? Insurance is an important part of the equation. After my first suicide attempt, I had no insurance. It was clear that it meant that I would not be able to get help without insurance. I was lucky to have a mom that fought to get me into the system of behavioral health without insurance. But it isn’t always so and it was only because my situation was bad.

It’s the worst thing when people tell you that you can’t get help because you have a pre-existing condition. (But that’s for another blog post.)

One of the first things you need to do is check to see what your insurance allows. You should check with your state or county facilities and see what services they provide. Insurance is important and I found out in 2014 that when you have insurance, you can get more services. If you can find outside private services it’s important to know what you need.

I am speaking from my experience living in California. I am also talking in the context of my local system of behavioral health. For me, my psychiatrist is to maintain my medications. We talk about what is working and discuss what changes my psychiatrist want’s to make. I saw one private psychiatrist before my first suicide attempt and my experience was the same. With my psychiatrist monitors how my medication is affecting me through blood tests.

When it comes to my therapist she acts as both my therapist and my case manager. We work on my issues with therapy and CBT, but she also helps me with things like seeking social security. Recently I asked her to help me with an anxiety dog (which I still have no idea what to do with that. On a side note if you know anything about it I could use the help.) With my therapist, we work on things like CBT and things with my depression and social anxiety.

I also have a general practitioner doctor that helps me with my other issues. She helps monitor my other issues like insomnia and the fact that I am a borderline diabetic. (So she says). All together my team helps me throughout the year.

In my mind, it is important to be comfortable with your team. If you have a psychiatrist that you don’t trust, nothing will feel right. I have had issues over the years with this, but I have fewer choices because I am with the local behavior health. At this moment I am happy with my team. Find what works for you when it comes to your mental health professionals.


What to do When Talking to a Professional

Always be honest with your mental health providers even in a non-crisis situation. I can’t stress this enough. I can’t believe the number of times that I let things go. More recently my social anxiety over the last few years. I let it get to the worst possible situations before I started to talk about it.

A non-crisis situation can turn into a life or death situation. I wanted to write this post because so on recently asked me what to do when your situation isn’t dire. If you are feeling anxious or depressed and it is your first time seeking help, don’t be afraid. Never be afraid.

I hope this helps and if you need more information do some research. I know in my local behavior health they have a 24/7 crisis team. You can call a suicide hotline or find a char group. You can always ask me, I am a wealth of information through experience.

Always Keep Fighting.

J.E. Skye

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34 Replies to “Seeking Help in a Non-Crisis Situation”

  1. Its also important to have a crisis plan. A list of things to do or someone else can help you do in these situations.

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      1. James are you on instagram? There’s something else that would go perfectly in your post. I’d like to share.

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    1. I agree. While I was in college my mother and I made an “Anxiety” box. It was filled with things that would help if I were to spike or even dissociate. It also had a list of names and numbers. People to call if it were to get too bad. It really helped. And I shared it with my roommate too.

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      1. Though my case was much more mild than what I believe you are addressing, I think it can be helpful.

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  2. This is important. Speaking from my years on the other side of the desk, dealing with a non-crisis before it becomes a crisis is so much easier, IF, and in some care systems it can be a very big “if”, the appropriate resources are available (and covered by insurance or whatever for a non-crisis).

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    1. Yeah that is very key and kinda sad if you think about it. We should have universal health care so that people can get the help they need. It’s so sad that even with insurance there is a good chance that you will still not get the help you need

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      1. Sadly, working in community mental health clinics (i.e., Medicaid funded), I never had the full range of services and programs available that I would have wanted, a full spectrum of levels of care, though some are better than others. And, coordination of care between the medical and psychiatric systems is often lacking or difficult.

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  3. I have a service dog and am totally willing to answer any questions you may have. The most important is the difference between an emotional support dog (for comfort, not required to be trained, no public access) and a service dog (trained to mitigate your disability, public access rights). Please let me know which you are seaking

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      1. Ok, it differs a lot based on your needs but there are two main paths. The first to each is to have a medical professional think you could benefit. It sounds like you’ve already talked with your therapist, so great!
        Next you decide on a program dog, or, if you have dog training experience, owner-training (this is what I did). There are lots of pro’s and con’s to each, so really take your time and find out what you need. The reason I went with owner training was that I knew I could train the tasks I needed, and I needed a dog ASAP. So I purchased a puppy bred for service work (though if you find the right healthy, good temperament dog at a shelter by all means go for it, just know theres a much higher “drop out” rate, both for shelter dogs and owner-trained dogs.
        If owner-training isn’t right for you, you can go through a program. There are hundreds out there, some better than others. For psychiatric work your options are smaller, but I can help you find some if you would like.
        Theres actually a third option, which is owning a puppy and working with a private, experienced trainer. This is in my opinion the best route, as you can bond with your dog from the start while also getting immediate benefit from tasks (as quickly as your dog learns, at least.)
        I hope this helped, please let me know if you have any more questions!

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  4. Always love your posts, and I think this “plug” will help people in need. To all of James’ followers, I am still all over the place, in my writing style. BUT this is a blog I did was about texting a crisis hotline,since James did mention finding a chatline, which is included in the blog. This was a non-crisis event,but secretly I wanted to see what it would be like IF I was having a BPD episode, and if my therapist wasn’t on hand, to talk with.

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  5. I was looking at list of reasons to call a crisis line “thoughts of suicide” is only one of the reasons you can call but it’s not the only reason.

    List from

    What is a Crisis?
    A crisis is a time in your life when you feel like you are struggling and are having difficulty coping. You may experience:

    Feelings of fear, failure, uncertainty,
    powerlessness, hopelessness, confusion,
    hurt and sadness

    A sense of losing control

    Thoughts of suicide

    Headaches, muscle tension, chronic fatigue or other physical problems

    Changes in eating or sleeping habits

    Isolating yourself

    Difficulty concentrating

    Anger and other mood swings

    Alcohol or drug problems

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