When I was younger, I was brutally shoved into what I call the “Mental Health Circuit” of seeing doctors and therapists like there was no tomorrow. Of course I mean I did seriously try to kill myself, so this was completely justified. Still to this day I can’t believe how many bad doctors and therapists I saw. Ones that really only cared about their paycheck and not about me. That was of course until I found my first truly great therapist, Melissa. I found out through her that I greatly improve from being brutally and honestly challenged. There wasn’t a session that I saw here that she didn’t literally call bullshit on my way of thinking. Believe it or not, it really helped. I was so dead set on my ways that I never really believed that what I was thinking was wrong.
In this mental health life, a truly great therapist can make all the difference, and I’ve had a very select few. One did betray my trust and used confidential information when I was faced with the police, but I’ve since forgiven her, as it most likely saved my life. It can take years to find a therapist that really listens to you, especially when you say that you have a way of therapy that works best. Most therapists are unable to leave the comfort zone in the way that they were taught, and work a different way just to help you. When you find someone who does their absolute best to try and help you, hold onto that person and never let go. I’ve since found another therapist that challenges me like Melissa did, and I really like to think that seeing her does greatly benefit me in almost every way.
The real trick is finding this person, because there are a lot of bad therapists out there, and they most certainly will take your money until you figure out they aren’t working for you. So my advice as someone who has been around “The Mental Health Circuit” one too many times, is take your time in selecting your therapist and and your psychiatrist, because you really only need one good one (of each) that you can rely on in your time of need. Not anybody that doesn’t listen to you and tries to shove meds down your throat. The unfortunate truth is that meds don’t always work, it took me years to find one med that really did, and then having to live with the side effects was really challenging. In the end though, it was really worth the wait, the painstaking trial and error, just to get a good therapist, doctor and med combo. As now, I really feel like there is progress to be made in my own life. So I know for a fact that you are not a lost cause! You just need to find people that will truly work with and for you. It’ll probably be one of the hardest things you have ever done, but I assure you, it is definitely worth it.
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