The Mental Health Circuit

When I was younger, I was brutally shoved into what I call the “Mental Health Circuit” of seeing doctors and therapists like there was no tomorrow. Of course I mean I did seriously try to kill myself, so this was completely justified. Still to this day I can’t believe how many bad doctors and therapists I saw. Ones that really only cared about their paycheck and not about me. That was of course until I found my first truly great therapist, Melissa. I found out through her that I greatly improve from being brutally and honestly challenged. There wasn’t a session that I saw here that she didn’t literally call bullshit on my way of thinking. Believe it or not, it really helped. I was so dead set on my ways that I never really believed that what I was thinking was wrong.

In this mental health life, a truly great therapist can make all the difference, and I’ve had a very select few. One did betray my trust and used confidential information when I was faced with the police, but I’ve since forgiven her, as it most likely saved my life. It can take years to find a therapist that really listens to you, especially when you say that you have a way of therapy that works best. Most therapists are unable to leave the comfort zone in the way that they were taught, and work a different way just to help you. When you find someone who does their absolute best to try and help you, hold onto that person and never let go. I’ve since found another therapist that challenges me like Melissa did, and I really like to think that seeing her does greatly benefit me in almost every way.

The real trick is finding this person, because there are a lot of bad therapists out there, and they most certainly will take your money until you figure out they aren’t working for you. So my advice as someone who has been around “The Mental Health Circuit” one too many times, is take your time in selecting your therapist and and your psychiatrist, because you really only need one good one (of each) that you can rely on in your time of need. Not anybody that doesn’t listen to you and tries to shove meds down your throat. The unfortunate truth is that meds don’t always work, it took me years to find one med that really did, and then having to live with the side effects was really challenging. In the end though, it was really worth the wait, the painstaking trial and error, just to get a good therapist, doctor and med combo. As now, I really feel like there is progress to be made in my own life. So I know for a fact that you are not a lost cause! You just need to find people that will truly work with and for you. It’ll probably be one of the hardest things you have ever done, but I assure you, it is definitely worth it.



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18 Replies to “The Mental Health Circuit”

  1. Great post!

    I completely agree, and yes therapy can be brutal to the point you leave the office in complete shambles because they challenged you, but a lot of that is what makes great therapy. As a person who has battled mental illness all my life, it amazes me how many people don’t believe me on what actually works. I have come to find out at least in my journey is the first step to wanting to get better is to let go of excuses, to actually truly want to help yourself and it involves challenging your thoughts and self in many ways you never thought possible. It’s harsh to say but in my experience some people are actually miserable because they want to be without them even realzing it. if that makes sense….I could sit at home everyday saying I was born with autism and blah blah blah so things will never change, people will never understand it and I can’t do what everyboduy else can do. Or I have depression and it’s because this reason and that reason….and it will never go away. Truth is as soon as I admitted I was just being a lazy mofo who really didn’t want to go out of my way to change anything or try anything and actually did do things that challenged myself, my way of thinking and strategies to better myself was when my life really did change. Sure I still have cycles of depression, and my autism continues to be an on going challenge, it doesn’t entirely define my life anymore and accepting me for who I am, and trying to do the best I can with no excuses has really changed my life and I am much more successful and happier than I once was. Another big part of changing myself was to stop blaming other people for my discomfort.

    I dunno if that makes sense, but basically unfortunetely a lot of people stop seeing good therapists because they are afraid to be challenged. A lot of people who are dealing with mental illnesses are use to being coddled and are very fragile, it can be very challenging to pull them out of their comfort zone to see the light. It takes good therapists to do it, but it also and always ultimately takes a lot of work from the individual seeking professional help to truly better themselves and manage their mental illness so they can be happy. There are excellent therapies and doctors out there, but it is ultimately us who does the hard work and we deserve a ton of credit.

    I am glad you took the journey and as brutal as it was it was worth it. I wish you the best of luck in your future. 🙂


    1. I was depressed and letting myself stay depressed for a long time, because it’s what felt comfortable. It wasn’t until I was being challenged that I realized what I was doing. Thank you for you warm wishes, the same to you my friend

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    1. It really works, because depression takes over your brain and makes you think a certain way that may not be correct (probably isn’t) and only by being challenged can we change our thinking

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  2. Wolfgang,
    i really appreciate you sharing this part of your life with us. this really gives me the edge i need to try and weed out the bad therapists. if it wasn’t for this i wouldn’t have realized that my last therapist wasn’t right for me. she didn’t challenge me enough and i thought that was normal. i thought not challenging your patients and letting them challenge themselves was the right way to go for most therapists, but now i’m finding out that she was just lazy and wanted to get her paycheck from the state and my insurance and didn’t really listen to what i had to say or challenge the negative thinking.
    i wish that i had learned a few months ago and i could’ve changed to more challenging therapist. my last therapist has since left me and my last visit with her was a few weeks ago. now i’m getting a new therapist in her place and hoping that i can weed her out like a bad plant. i hope your therapist is everything you ever need from her.


    1. Glad to hear that you’re making strides towards getting a better therapist. It’s crucial for your success. I really hope for your sake this next one is a good one. Sending much love your way

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  3. Yes! Finding allies in the mental health field is everything, we have to find those that support our healing journey, when there are so many others out there that can cause damage or hinder our progress.


  4. Love this post! Having been through many doctors as well, it was quite relieving when I finally found one that, well, gives a shit really. And I have improved greatly since meeting with him. This is a very important topic and I’m glad you covered it so well. Well done 👏🏻

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  5. Funny that I see this today as I felt the relief of finding an amazing mental health team at just the right moment. Like you I have been in the “circuit” on a few occasions and have also had so-called professionals turn out to be not so much so. I appreciate your words and wish you well! As part of my current journey, I have also started a blog if you would like to check it out!


  6. Something else to consider: I’m glad I grew up decades ago, but like most, I have my own struggles, but the more I think about what life was like before, I am amazed more people are making it through this thing called life. It’s an incredible thing to notice. In my youth, I played outdoors, looked under rocks, rode bicycles, played and argued with friends and neighbors. I think some of the difficulties began when I started school, not saying back then the schools weren’t of good quality, but I think I wasn’t built to learn by rote, and I rebelled in some fashion, by not getting good grades. If I were growing up in today’s time, with all the testing and streamlined texts, with the plethora of television programming and much of the deploring shows, with the internet and way too easy material access, I don’t know how many therapists I might have to visit and how many meds I would have to take. I walk around, and I wonder what has happened to common sense? You see, in my opinion, growing up in a family, with siblings, running outdoors, playing sports, perhaps having a ranch neighbor: there’s something to that. Running around, figuring things out, sometimes by falling, stumbling, but getting up and rubbing a little dirt in the cut (We used to do that.). There’s something about a simpler childhood, making tree forts and plans to take the neighborhood. There’s something in the way we grew up. And if children have healthy experiences without all the “thinking” and over thinking, I wonder how happy people would be today.

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  7. I really appreciate this post. I feel that I have always struggled to find a good therapist because I see them only once for 50 minutes every two weeks, and don’t feel that I have time to develop a relationship with the person. My friends and teachers are much closer with me and around me all the time, so why wouldn’t I prefer to open up to them? I have always struggled to find a counselor who really connects with me.


    1. Yeah it’s difficult to find a good one, but once you do, never let them go. My best therapist actually left the business, so I struggled to find another one that I get along with, but I did. So never give up hope!

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