Grief And Mental Health

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Grief and Opinions

If you have faced a tragedy and someone tells you in anyway, shape or form that your tragedy was meant to be. That it happened for a reason and that it will make you a better person. Or that taking responsibility for it will fix it. You have every right to remove those people out of your life.

Grief: what is it?

Grief is brutally painful. Grief does not only occur when someone dies. Yes, death is another form of grief. It also occurs when relationships fall apart. When dreams die, you grieve. When illnesses wreck you, you grieve. So, I am going to repeat words I have uttered countless times to these people in my life. Words so powerful and honest that they tear at the hubris of every person who participates in debasing grieving. Some things in life cannot be fixed. They can only be carried. The soul that sees beauty may sometimes walk alone. Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars but they carry on living despite it all.


There are times when life events leave huge question marks as a sign to stretch our faith. Time will fade sorrows. These struggles will diminish. You’ll be you again, I promise. You will be happy again, you will be yourself more than ever. You will understand your heart better when you heal. You will be whole.

Let us rebuild a healthy state of mind.

Love, Francesca.

10 Replies to “Grief And Mental Health”

  1. I have had many situations that have happened in the past almost 8 years that have caused me to grieve in many different ways. I am so glad you shared this post. I have had so many people tell me that things happen for a reason and I have gotten so annoyed hearing those words.


  2. I completely agree with you! I find it horrible that people will say, “It was God’s will” or “God never gives you more than you can handle.” Like how does that make a person feel any better?


    1. Exactly there are some people who use religion to justify grief. I don’t believe that that’s fair. Thank you for reading this blog post.


  3. So many of your words ring true… However, those questions should be asked and answered and a dialogue started. The time is now. Question and question it is important to understand things. Secrets and waiting….where has that gotten the world?
    Just more waiting and more bad things happening…no. The time is now. You say these things stretch ‘our’ faith… I have faith in human nature to question the powerful people who do not care about us but rule us.
    I don’t understand this faith of which you talk…I am a a human who believes in others.


  4. Thanks for sharing. Grief is so hard to know what to do with, but I appreciate your thoughts.


  5. Very true, whats more is that we all grieve in different ways. Some will try and forget that it happened, others will dwell on it and others will put that energy into other things… All of it sucks, and we all find ways to deal. What is surprising is the amount of people that are unaware of how to empathise with those that are in emotional pain, they will stumble around you trying to make themselves feel better about not being able to help.
    It all sucks, and I am deeply sorry that you are going through something like that.


  6. People really suck at talking to those dealing with grief. After my Dad was murdered, my co-workers would not say hello or good morning to me. The boss sent out an email that told them not to talk to me. It was horrible! I was dealing with the hardest thing ever to happen to me and I was made an outcast at work. It’s painful enough without people adding to it.


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