Self love to me is loving yourself, wholly and unconditionally. Loving the good parts of yourself and the bad. It is also taking time to care for your self and to make your self the best you can be.
Self-love is something that a lot of us struggle with, myself included. Loving myself is something I’ve struggled with for most of my adolescent/young adult life. Part of this is probably due to my abusive past relationship, and the rest is probably because of my mental illnesses of depression, anxiety, and PTSD. I not only struggle with loving myself as a person, but loving the body I live in as well.
Something that really helps me is reading quotes that are meaningful, and I’d like to share a few of those.
“My first love was some insignificant boy, when it should’ve been myself. “
This one is interesting to me. When I was younger, I sought out validation with my relationships. But, if someone didn’t like me, it made me feel bad about myself as well. I later realized that I didn’t need validation from others, I needed it from myself. How can anyone else love me if I don’t in turn, love myself?
“Get into the habit of asking yourself: ‘Does this support the life I’m trying to create?'”
This is an important one. 2019 for me has been focusing on my own growth. Self love falls into that category. In order to grow and learn to love myself, I want to make decisions that support the life I want. This way, I am actively making decisions to better myself and decisions that make me happy.
Self love can be different for every person. It is basically taking some time to spend with yourself and do something that makes you happy. Some examples of what I do is
- take a bubble bath
- go for a walk
- listen to your favorite song
- have a dance party
- go for a walk
- cuddle a pet
But really, what you do is totally up to you. It is really important to occasionally take time to give yourself love. If you are like me and constantly giving others love and attention, it can be rather draining. So, always make sure you are giving yourself some time as well.Become a Patron!https://c6.patreon.com/becomePatronButton.bundle.js