In this mental illness life, one thing I have been good at is ruining relationships. The worst of it for me was when I was suicidal and in poor mental health.
For me, personally, I have lost friendships, working relationships, and personal relationships because my mental health got in the way of living life. It was never anything personal because I was doing the best I could in the impossible situation of living with a mental illness, but when you start canceling plans because your too anxious, or are living on the border of suicidal thoughts, it can severely hurt personal relationships.
Why does poor mental health ruin relationships? Mainly what I see is the lack of understanding from those who have never lived this life, or worse the lack of empathy for people that have for mental illness sufferers. Right now, I am in a place in my life where things like people saying “just get over it” does not bother me, but I am in a different place in my mental health recovery. Someone in poor mental health is usually not so lucky because they feel guilty. When you lack empathy, it makes it harder for us to be open, and it ruins relationships.
I get it, we all have problems in this life. I am not saying mental health sufferers are worse off than any one person, but they do deal with more at times than someone who doesn’t wake up dreading a depression and anxiety-filled day, every day. They have to worry that depression will keep them from being productive or even a simple task like getting out of bed. It can seem impossible to find the energy to take a shower. Have you ever been so depressed that you can’t even take a shower? It sucks.
My hope with posts like these will reach those who are living with someone with poor mental health that you find a place of understanding. It is not forever. I, The Bipolar Writer, is living proof that you can get better in this mental illness life. I got my Bachelors of Art in Creative Writing and English. I am going for my MFA. I am soon to be a published author. The poor mental health, although it seemed it at the time, did not last forever.
Yes, poor mental health can ruin relationships, but it doesn’t have to because if you really love someone you will fight with them for better mental health. Stay strong in the fight.
Always Keep Fighting
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